‘Where We Live’ interviews PCC CEO Barbara Damon, CCADV CEO Meghan Scanlon on critical DV challenges in our state

PCC CEO Barbara Damon & CT Coalition Against Domestic Violence CEO Meghan Scanlon discuss critical challenges we face as government funding for current services is in jeopardy at a time of escalating violence and increased need. Listen to this episode of Where We Live to hear Damon and Scanlon talk about the dire impact of potential funding cutbacks, long term health effects of domestic violence on adults and children, current trends, and how the community can help prevent future violence. Listen to the episode “Domestic violence cases are getting more aggressive, here’s how our state is addressing it” now.

 

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National Network to End Domestic Violence Statement on Murder of Tyre Nichols

At Prudence Crandall Center, we stand in solidarity with the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) in the statement and social media post made by their President & CEO, Deborah J. Vagins regarding the brutal beating of Tyre Nichols, a 29-year-old Black man killed by Memphis police officers earlier this month.

While we truly value and appreciate the partnerships we have with our local police departments, we recognize the need for change within many of our systems.

We would like to highlight and affirm Ms. Vagins’ statement that, “Despite widespread protests and calls for police reform… our country’s system of law enforcement continues to terrorize Black Communities and other Communities of Color. Our work to end domestic violence cannot be separated from police violence and other state-sanctioned violence.” We also recognize the need to follow NNEDV’s lead in “striving to follow the lead of Black advocates and Black-led organizations within and beyond our movement”.

We are committed to racial and social justice and are grateful to learn from others in this movement – a movement to end violence and restore hope.

We urge you to read NNEDV’s full statement here.

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Prudence Crandall Center Celebrates the Impact of Local Leaders

April 5, 2022
 

New Britain, CT – With tremendous admiration and appreciation, Prudence Crandall Center (PCC) announces the retirement of Board of Directors member Mary Healey, JD after 18 years of dedicated service to the organization.  Healey joined the Board in 2003 and helped lead the agency during a period of expansion and transformative change.  Drawing on her commitment to the local community and her extensive professional experience, including 10 years as the Consumer Counsel for the State of CT, Healey consistently delivered intellect, passion, and expertise to the PCC Board.

Taking the helm after the late Tony Garro, Healey dedicated her time and talent as the PCC Board President from 2009-2012.  As Board President, Healey set PCC on a path of growth and development, helping to open PCC’s ground-breaking supportive housing programs, which offers victims and their families a safe, stable, and affordable home after seeking shelter.  Reflecting on her time on the Board, Healey commented, “My service at PCC has been personally meaningful to me and my family.  I’ve been honored to be part of an agency that continues to be a leader in a critically important field where it truly saves and transforms lives.”

Among her many talents, Healey was an incredible relationship builder and fundraiser for PCC.  Healey helped shepherd PCC’s successful Bright Futures capital campaign in honor of the agency’s 40th anniversary.  A tireless advocate for PCC, Healey forged incredible connections within the local community and built a dedicated base of supporters for the agency.  Looking towards the future, Healey expressed her unwavering commitment to the cause and the organization. “I know my family and I will continue to be part of the PCC family, supporting its work.  I encourage others to do so as well because this agency has had a tremendous impact over the past 50 years, but there is still much work to be done.”

Current PCC Board President Michelle Rosa remarked, “Never one to shy away from the tough questions, Mary encouraged fellow Board members to lead with their heart and make a positive impact.  Mary will truly be missed on the Board, but we appreciate her continued support as a PCC advocate in our community.”

During PCC’s most recent Annual Meeting, Board member and Bristol resident Dave Rackliffe (retired Chief Information Officer for Bristol Hospital) was elected Board Treasurer.  Rackliffe brings a wealth of experience to the position and looks forward to leading continued financial growth for the organization.  PCC thanks Lucia Chubet (Partner, Mugford & DiBella, LLC) for her dedication and leadership as outgoing Board Treasurer and is grateful for her continued commitment as a Board member engaging our Southington community.  Joining the Board this year are three new Board members who bring additional critical talent and expertise to the agency’s Board – Brandy Little (Travelers), Brenda Moore (Bristol Housing Authority), and Mary Smith-Floyd (City of New Britain Community Services).

PCC President & CEO, Barbara Damon, commented, “I am incredibly grateful to Mary and the rest of our Board for their leadership and commitment over the past two years, which were particularly challenging for our community and our agency.  Their diversity of skills and experiences, coupled with a passion for our mission, made the impossible possible during the pandemic and enables us to move forward.”

For more information, contact Sarah Hawkes at 860-259-3824 or shawkes@prudencecrandall.org

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Prudence Crandall Center was the first domestic violence program in our state and is the only program serving the communities of Bristol, Berlin, Burlington, Kensington, New Britain, Plainville, Plymouth, Southington and Terryville, with 28 units of supportive housing program open to survivors from throughout the state. Services include a 24-hour crisis hotline, emergency shelter, transitional and permanent supportive housing, court advocacy, counseling, and community education and prevention services. For additional information about Prudence Crandall Center or to donate, please visit www.prudencecrandall.org. To access the 24-hour hotline, call toll-free 888-774-2900. All services are free and confidential.

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CT must do more to help children facing trauma at home

By Meghan Scanlon; CT Post; January 21, 2022
 

As the COVID-19 pandemic has stretched on longer than any of us originally anticipated, the secondary effects of this global crisis continue to play out in communities and homes around the world, and here in Connecticut.

Much attention has rightfully been paid to the impact of the pandemic on various social and economic fronts including mental health, the education achievement gap, workforce problems and more. However, there is another widespread and dire area of concern that has gotten less attention. A shadow pandemic which plays out within our broader public health crisis that is having a particular impact on Connecticut children: domestic violence.

In the early waves of the pandemic, the very measures put in place to combat the virus were also fueling a “nightmare for victims of domestic violence.” As families were asked to isolate at home, victims of domestic violence were given more exposure to domestic abusers. Early estimates and studies showed more than an 8 percent increase in domestic violence incidents in the United States, as well as a dramatic surge in gun sales. And as the pandemic has dragged on, external factors such as income loss have made domestic situations more volatile, compounding the problem.

The impact is especially acute for children. For one, remote learning meant more time at home, often with adult family members either working from home or experiencing unemployment. Beyond that, the pandemic has caused fewer children to interact with a variety of systems intended to offer safety and support. When children are not in school, it prevents the ability of teachers and other professionals to notice irregularities in behavior that could be attributable to experiencing or witnessing abuse at home; in fact, the Connecticut Department of Children and Families has reported substantially fewer referrals from educators over the past year. Many social services that help children have also been moved to virtual rather than in-person contact, limiting access to some children who otherwise may have had access to those services.

Unfortunately, here in Connecticut there is currently zero state funding for the social service workers whose primary job function is helping children impacted by domestic violence: Connecticut’s child and family advocates. These advocates work at our state’s 18 domestic violence organizations, and utilize a number of trauma-informed, evidence-based and resiliency-driven approaches to their work. They support both children and nonoffending parents with critical services including counseling, coordinating basic needs, school or child care enrollment, scheduling transportation, and advocating for the child and nonoffending parent/survivor within the courts and our child welfare system.

Throughout the pandemic, advocates have gone above and beyond for the children they serve, often stepping in to manage remote learning and stepping up to provide child care when parents need to get to a job interview, or a job and other care hasn’t worked out.

Currently, federal pass-through funds pay for only about a quarter of the cost of a full-time advocate at each domestic violence organization, or $11,500 per position. This results in local providers having to either raise funds privately to fully fund a position or have a staff member split their time across various functions, leaving less time for these child-focused purposes. Looking at the number of cases these advocates handle in Connecticut makes the problem starkly clear: over a five-year period from 2017 to 2021, there was an average of 4,313 children served annually by advocates. However, given that each member receives funding for a maximum of 26 percent of their time, that means that federal funding is only supporting advocates for 2.26 hours of service to each child, per year.

Thankfully, state leaders are recognizing that this isn’t a sustainable situation for Connecticut, or its children. Lt. Gov. Susan Bysiewicz recently made a strong and clear call for state action to fund these positions, and to do it this year. Along with the lieutenant governor and key partners in the General Assembly, the Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence will seek a total of $1,440,000 in new state funding to cover the cost of 18 full-time child and family advocates. This number is less than .01 percent of Connecticut’s state budget, but it would be a lifeline to thousands of children who experience or witness violence in their homes, including those who have experienced increased exposure during the pandemic.

Providing evidence- and strengths-based resiliency services for children is paramount to the overall safety and stability of Connecticut families, but currently there is simply not a sustainable way to meet those needs. Connecticut can and should do more — it should start with fully funding child and family advocates.

Meghan Scanlon is the president and CEO of the Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

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Domestic Violence Has Accompanied Us Into the New Year, And We Must Be Resolved to Combat It

By Joette Katz; Connecticut Law Tribune; January 6, 2022
 

It’s safe to say that many of us today are consumed with COVID—how not to get sick, how to get people vaccinated, how to keep kids safely in school, how to reopen businesses and how to recognize and treat mental health issues exacerbated by the pandemic.

What I have not heard spoken about in any meaningful way is domestic violence. In fact, the very steps that we have taken to prevent the spread of the virus—quarantines, stay-at-home orders, school closures, economic shutdowns and working remotely—have often created new occasions for abuse. Months of unpaid rent, mounting bills, increased consumption of alcohol, sickness and isolation have not only caused instances of abuse to escalate, but these same factors have contributed to the feeling of helplessness that many victims experience. In much of the world, shelters and legal services are limited or nonexistent. If they do exist, they are likely to be overstretched and under-resourced. In some parts of the world, the United Nations is calling this a “shadow pandemic.”

 

While men and boys suffer, women and girls are more often the victims, and LGBTQ and nonbinary people are at a heightened risk. Women in marginalized groups, such as refugees, are even more likely to feel helpless.

In the past, the number of domestic violence incidents in the United States was determined largely from police reports. More recent reliance on police call logs, domestic violence crime reports, emergency hotline registries, health records reports, court cases, calls to hotlines, occupancy in shelters and opinion surveys provide a more accurate picture. Last year, according to analysis released by the National Commission on COVID-19 and Criminal Justice (NCCCJ), every form of data relied upon showed overwhelming evidence of an increase in domestic violence after stay-at-home orders were issued. But because domestic violence often goes underreported due to fear, the sensitivity of the topic, and the shame that victims carry, the figures are considered underestimates, and the pandemic has made getting accurate data a challenge. Lockdowns have also trapped more survivors with their abusers, making it more difficult to report incidents or have others intervene, further contributing to this shadow pandemic.

 

Many of the instances of domestic violence occur in the presence of children. Quite often those outside of the family don’t know what is going on, and it is often difficult to know how best to intervene. And unfortunately, the reality is that in many cases, meaningful intervention occurs only after a child has endured direct and continued exposure to violence.

The effects on children who have witnessed domestic violence experience are far-reaching: insomnia, bed-wetting, verbal, motor and cognitive issues, depression, learning difficulties and aggressive, antisocial and self-harming behaviors. As if that were not enough, studies have found evidence of much higher rates of pro-violence attitudes, rigid stereotypical gender beliefs involving male privilege, bullying, animal abuse, assault and property destruction.

An adverse childhood experiences study led by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has classified exposure to domestic violence as one of several adverse childhood experiences contributing to poor quality of life, premature death and risk factors for many of the most common causes of death in the United States. Obviously, children who experience physical and sexual abuse themselves are at the greatest risk for emotional and psychological problems. And while children develop coping strategies and other protective factors that may mitigate the worst impacts, I think we can all agree that it would be better to not have to rely on them.

There were early warning signs of this shadow pandemic, and those who were aware of the issue were asking for help. Initially, coronavirus relief packages offered programs targeting women, but very few of them covered domestic violence. Eventually, as many shifted to remote work, new measures were adopted to support victims of domestic violence. They included online services, the establishment of alert systems for reporting domestic violence at food stores and pharmacies, the provision of hotel accommodation where shelters are full, telemedicine for reproductive health care at home, economic support for domestic workers and low-income earners who have stopped working, extended paid leave for parents of children with disabilities, free childcare and temporary housing for poor women, “e-justice” services and psychological and legal counseling.

The pandemic was also an impetus for the police in some areas to try harder to reach women. Even in a time when there has been pressure to defund the police, some departments ramped up responses to hotline calls and WhatsApp and Facebook messages, platforms they previously had not prioritized.

But as the virus keeps resurging, so do the problems. Training new hires via Zoom has not been easy. Many courts are either closed or operating at reduced hours, and while many are adapting by switching to the use of new online technology to hear cases remotely, submitting necessary paperwork online has proved challenging, especially for those women with low socioeconomic status. Access to technology is often limited, and the opportunity for victims to safely make a phone call or use any other form of digital communication to report violence and seek help is particularly compromised if they share residence with a perpetrator. It’s too soon to know whether protection orders have been easily accessible and adequately adapted to the COVID-19 context including access to e-protection orders and e-emergency orders online and ex parte that could order a perpetrator to vacate the residence or prohibit the perpetrator from entering the residence or contacting the victim.

The Violence against Women Act, a landmark piece of legislation first made law in 1994, has been reauthorized a few times, most recently in 2013, but it expired in 2018, and while funding has been continued, provisions added at the instigation of advocates and survivors at each iteration have not been addressed. They are waiting in the wings to add provisions that would include greater access to emergency housing, addressing the ability of perpetrators to purchase firearms and providing services based on differing cultural norms and resources.

Media outlets have been helpful in raising public awareness about domestic violence in the context of COVID-19 and the importance of support for victims as a part of the national COVID-19 response. But regardless, as long as domestic violence remains the leading cause of physical injury to women—more than car accidents and muggings combined—much more attention is still needed. Domestic abuse should be understood as a cause and consequence of inequality, and abuse remains a choice by the abuser and cannot be excused by external factors, no matter what those circumstances may be.

We should acknowledge that victims continue to feel shame, not unlike many victims of sexual assault, as though somehow they contributed to their situation or encouraged it. As a society, we have an opportunity and responsibility to inject resiliency through academic, emotional and social support. We must all grapple with whether there are ways we might more effectively intervene within our families, schools, and communities to initiate help and healing. The numbers reported are underestimates and the increase we see is very likely the floor, not the ceiling.

So as we come back from our holiday celebrations, a little fatter and ever grateful for everything we enjoy, whether we do go back to stay-at-home orders or continue our recovery, let each of us think not just about how the pandemic has impacted home schooling, billable hours, remote jury trials and depositions. Domestic violence is pernicious and insidious; it cuts across all demographics; it has negative long term consequences for the children who witness it and devastating effects on those who experience it directly. It’s not too late to make addressing this shadow pandemic part of everyone’s New Year’s resolution.

Joette Katz is a partner at Shipman & Goodwin in Hartford, where she focuses her practice on business litigation. She is a former Connecticut Supreme Court justice and commissioner of the Connecticut Department of Children and Families. She currently co-chairs the Connecticut Law Tribune Editorial Board.

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Barnes Memorial Trust Awards Grants In Southington

By Chris Dehnel; Patch Southington; December 20, 2021
 

SOUTHINGTON, CT — The Main Street Community Foundation recently awarded a total of $474,258 in grants from the Bradley Henry Barnes & Leila Upson Barnes Memorial Trust to 13 nonprofit organizations “working to support the health and well-being of Southington residents.”

The grants awarded are:

  • The Arc of Southington – $5,900 – Repair and rebuild the handicap accessible ramp and landing at the entrance to the main office building
  • Bread For Life – $78,000 – Meal program for Southington’s food-insecure population, including support for rising food-related costs
  • Early Childhood Collaborative of Southington – $27,500 – Health, safety and well-being educational programs for young children and their caregivers.
  • Friends of Southington Community Services – $30,000 – Food, fuel assistance and other basic needs for low-income residents
  • LiveWell Alliance, Inc. – $55,000 – “Empowering Partnership Network” as well as the development of programs for people living with dementia through the Center for Resilient Living
  • Prudence Crandall Center Inc. – $45,000 – COVID-19 recovery relief and services for Southington victims of domestic violence and their children
  • Southington-Cheshire Community YMCAs – $100,000 – COVID-19 recovery relief support of programs and operations
  • Southington-Cheshire Community YMCAs – $31,434 – Community collaboration with the YMCA, Southington Public Schools and Southington Police Department to purchase and install “Stop the Bleed” kits in public locations
  • Southington Community Cultural Arts – $50,000 –All Access program for adults with disabilities and those living with dementia
  • Southington Education Foundation – $15,000 – Materials, supplies and licenses to enhance the “RULER” initiative for social/emotional learning in the Southington public schools
  • Southington Manna Fund, Inc. – $5,000 – Emergency housing for temporarily displaced Southington residents
  • United Way of Southington – $28,424 –Senior Transportation Services program, which offers free rides to Southington seniors to medical appointments, pharmacy, banks and care facilities

An additional $3,000 was provided to long-term care facilities – LiveWell Alliance and Southington Care Center – for patient assistance funds for financially disadvantaged residents.

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Connecticut police see an increase in domestic violencecalls during coronavirus stay-at-home orders

By Jesse Leavenworth; Hartford Courant; April 14, 2020
 
As much of Connecticut remains homebound due to the coronavirus pandemic, domestic violence calls to police
have risen across the state.
 
The increase has not been steep, but victims’ advocates say isolation favors abusers and the situation could
worsen.
 
“When there is a confined space, it can be controlled by an abuser, and you add to that the various stresses that we
are all experiencing — all of that isolation and all of that stress leads to an increase in abusive behavior,” said
Mary-Jane Foster, president and CEO of Interval House in Hartford.
 
Domestic violence is about power and control, experts say, and, a key tactic of abusers is to cut victims’ contacts
with family and friends.
 
“Here’s a situation,” Barbara Damon, executive director of the Prudence Crandall Center in New Britain, said,
“where we’re all isolated from family and friends, so it’s just a toxic mix.”
 
Hartford police reported that family violence calls increased from 435 calls in March 2019 to 509 in March of this
year. City leaders recently announced that a four-member team of officers will be dedicated to investigating
domestic violence complaints.
 
Such calls concern any possible violence or threats by one member of a household against another or between
intimate partners who don’t live together, reports of protective order violations, child abuse and violence between
roommates. City officials said there probably are more victims who have not called police.
 
The state Department of Emergency Services and Public Protection has been gathering data from state and
municipal police, including the large cities, and has found a slight rise in domestic calls for service, agency
spokesman Brian Foley said.
 
For communities covered by state troopers, figures for the month of March over four years show domestic calls in
March 2017 totaled 97, rising to 120 in 2018, falling to 94 in March 2019 and up again to 105 this past month.
In another comparison, the Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence surveyed police departments across
the state and found an 8% increase in calls during the first quarter of this year compared with the first three
months of 2019.
 
The coalition of 18 agencies across the state also has found that contacts to Safe Connect, Connecticut’s domestic
violence resource hub, increased from 1,060 contacts in January to 1,284 in February and 1,314 contacts in
March.
 
Seven percent of those who contacted Safe Connect over the past two weeks expressed concerns related
specifically to COVID-19. The 18 domestic violence organizations reported increased needs for basics such as
toiletries and clothing, behavioral health services, food, needs specific to children, such as distance learning, and
housing needs, especially from clients who fear they could lose their homes because they are unemployed.
 
“We know that this period of social distancing presents increased opportunities for domestic violence,” CCADV
leader Karen Jarmoc said. “While we are not necessarily viewing a significant increase in requests for help across
various systems, we can see that COVID-19 is having an impact on the ability of victims to access basic needs,
which can certainly exacerbate an already abusive relationship. Advocates across the state are being creative and
flexible in helping victims access these critical needs.”
 
Experts say domestic violence centers on control. Because abusers may feel they have lost some control — of
employment and finances, in particular — they may seek to increase control in their relationships.
 
“While necessary during a public health crisis, stay-at-home orders make it even more difficult for victims to seek
support,” said Debra A. Greenwood, president & CEO of The Center for Family Justice, which serves Bridgeport,
Easton, Fairfield, Monroe, Stratford and Trumbull.
 
“Social connectedness is critical for victims and survivors at a time like this,” Kai Belton, clinical director of Safe
Connect, said. “We encourage everyone to stay in touch with their friends and family, particularly if you already
suspect someone may be in an abusive relationship. Let them know that help is available 24/7 whenever they are
ready.”
 
“For folks who are experiencing isolation in homes with an abuser, it’s a potentially very dangerous time,” Damon
said. “I see the need for them to reach out and for neighbors and friends to reach out to them — you just don’t
know who needs a lifeline.”
 
Across the nation, calls to police and domestic violence hotlines have increased in many cities and towns,
according to news reports. USA Today reporters analyzed data from 53 law enforcement agencies around the
country and found calls for domestic disturbances and violence surged by 10% to 30% among many police
agencies that contributed data, the newspaper reported.
 
NBC News reported that of 22 law enforcement agencies that responded to a request for data on domestic violence
calls, 18 departments said they had seen a rise in March. Houston police, for example, received about 300 more
domestic violence calls in March than they did in February, a roughly 20% increase, NBC reported.
 
In China and Europe, domestic violence during the pandemic also has become a major concern. In Spain, the New
York Times reported, the emergency number for domestic violence received 18% more calls in the first two weeks
of lockdown than in the same period a month earlier.
 
Pope Francis on Monday called for prayers for victims of domestic violence, who are mostly women.
 
“Sometimes they (women) risk being victims of violence in a cohabitation that they bear like a weight that is far too heavy,” the pontiff said. “Let us pray for them, so the Lord grants them strength and that our communities support them along with their
families.”
 
Domestic violence services are accessible through CT Safe Connect at all hours. Call, chat and email at www.CTSafeConnect.org, or (888) 774-2900 ( texting is temporarily unavailable). CCADV says advocates can provide counseling, safety planning, risk assessment, assistance with a restraining order application, and a safe connection to a domestic violence organization for ongoing support and services. Bilingual services are available. All services are confidential, safe, free and voluntary.
 
Jesse Leavenworth can be reached at jleavenworth@courant.com.
 

 
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‘Stay Safe, Stay Home’ has little meaning to victims of domestic violence, but there is help in area for those in need

Author: Erica Drzewiecki; New Britain Herald
Published: April 22, 2020

When home is where the hurt is, ‘Stay Safe, Stay Home’ has little meaning.

Luckily, for victims of domestic violence, there are still open shelters and resources available, even during the COVID-19 pandemic.

“We continue to be on the front lines as our service is open and available 24 hours a day, seven days a week,” said Barbara Damon, executive director of the Prudence Crandall Center.

The organization provides emergency shelter, transitional and supportive housing to victims of domestic violence hailing from New Britain and Bristol, and towns in between, including Southington, Plainville, Berlin and even as far as Plymouth.

Staff has remained on-site in Prudence Crandall’s emergency shelter and others working remotely continue to provide counseling over the phone, by video chat and email.

“We’re finding that the greatest increase in need right now has been for help with basic food and supplies and funding to meet monthly expenses,” Damon pointed out. “So many of our folks we serve have either lost a job or lost their childcare and are really struggling right now.”

Families living in Prudence Crandall’s shelter have separate bedrooms and can safely distance themselves. Other survivors have remained in housing at undisclosed locations and some are staying in hotels for the time being.

“This is a time filled with anxiety and stress for all of us, but particularly those experiencing the trauma of abuse,” Damon pointed out. “There is a lot of need for emotional support and counseling at this time.”

Prudence Crandall’s most pressing need right now is financial.

The organization’s annual fundraising dinner was postponed along with all other large group gatherings and events. Unforeseen expenses due to the novel coronavirus have also posed a challenge.

“Every year we rely on the community to fund about 30 percent of our operating budget,” Damon explained. “We need to raise $650,000 to meet our current needs. We need the community now more than ever.”

The center has received donations of face masks and meal deliveries. Monetary donations are strongly encouraged at prudencecrandall.org.

Other agencies that help victims include the Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence (CCADV). CEO Karen Jarmoc was one of several panelists to speak during a virtual conference this week.

When the pandemic began in early March, Jarmoc said, domestic violence shelters were already at 130 percent capacity across Connecticut.

The CCADV runs CTSafeConnect.org, an online resource where victims of violence can seek help. It’s being utilized even more now that victims are forced to be at home, Jarmoc said.

A bright spot in this pandemic: for people who need to file a restraining order, it is now possible online.

Thanks to an April 3 ruling by the Honorary Michael Albis, the state’s chief administrative judge of family matters, restraining orders can be filed remotely at https://jud.ct.gov/remote_restrain.htm.

In this time of crisis, advocates are still available to help 24/7 at CTSafeConnect. All services are confidential, safe, free and voluntary. Call 888-774-2900.

Erica Drzewiecki can be reached at edrzewiecki@centralctcommunications.com.

Source: New Britain Herald; ‘Stay Safe, Stay Home’ has little meaning to victims of domestic violence, but there is help in area for those in need. 

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“Challenge” to Raise Funds to Sustain Life-Saving Services

Earlier this year, the government shutdown impacted vital funding to Prudence Crandall Center, high-lighting the importance of private donations to sustain the agency’s vital services for victims of domestic violence. One local couple has decided to challenge others to join them in making that happen.

A generous board member and long-standing supporter of the agency, Lynn McArthur-Lefler and her husband Gary Lefler, have offered a “challenge” to jump-start the agency’s annual fund-raising breakfast, Celebrating Hope. Through their $25,000 Leadership “Challenge”, the couple will match the first-year gift of any new member of Prudence Crandall Center’s Bright Futures Giving Society, in effect doubling these donations. The couple will also match other contributions of $1,000 or more, up to the $25,000 limit.

The Bright Futures Giving Society is currently comprised of 28 community members who pledge $1,000 a year or more (through monthly, quarterly or annual gifts) over five years, providing a vital foundation of annual support that is used to bridge funding gaps in services agency-wide.

According to Ms. Lefler, Prudence Crandall Center’s Bright Futures Giving Society gives the agency a critical foundation of private funding it can count on over time, to fill annual funding gaps and weather unexpected changes, like the shut-down. As the board development chair, I’ve seen first-hand the difference private contributions have made for the agency during challenging times. But we know we have more work to do.”

“Gary and I are incredibly proud to support the work of Prudence Crandall Center, and want to do everything we can to make sure these life-saving services are there, always, for victims and children at their time of need,” said Ms. Lefler. “We’re grateful to be able to make this gift and hope others will be motivated by our match to double the impact of their gift this year, as well as be part of the celebration of the Leadership Challenge at this year’s Celebrating Hope breakfast with us.”

The Leflers’ generosity and innovative challenge has already inspired several community members to join in. Through their challenge, the Leflers hope to raise $75,000 in total contributions to strengthen the agency’s services now and in the future.

“Increasing private contributions has been a top priority for us over the last several years,” said Barbara Damon, Prudence Crandall Center’s executive director. “As a local, private nonprofit, we already need to raise 30% of our funding from our community each year, which can be a struggle. We know we have to re-double these efforts, so that we can build reserves to protect against any interruption in services.”

Regarding the Leflers’ challenge, Ms. Damon remarked, “Lynn’s leadership as our development chair continues to make an incredible difference for us, making our agency stronger every year. We are deeply grateful for Lynn and Gary’s personal commitment, and for the amazing inspiration they are providing to others through their Leadership Challenge gift this year. It’s so wonderful that their challenge gift gives others the chance to join in and watch that total grow! We look forward to sharing the results at this year’s breakfast, and celebrating with everyone who contributed.”

This year’s Celebrating Hope breakfast will be held Friday, May 31st, at the DoubleTree by Hilton in Bristol. The event’s Presenting Sponsor is once again the Petit Family Foundation, which has generously sponsored the agency’s signature fund-raising events for over a decade. For information about sponsorships or the Leflers’ Leadership Challenge, please contact Carolyn Jasper, Development Director, at (860)259-3817 or cjasper@prudencecrandall.org.

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February is Teen Dating Violence (TDV) Awareness Month

Nationwide, 1 in 3 teens reports being physically, sexually or emotionally hurt by their partner. According to the CT Department of Public Health, 17% of CT high school students report being emotionally abused by a dating partner and 8% report being physically abused by a dating partner (2011 School Health Survey Youth Risk Behavior Report). And early exposure to abusive or violent relationships increases the likelihood of those types of relationships being repeated later in life.

 


Communicating with young people
about dating violence
is the first step in ending abuse.

 


WHAT IS TEEN DATING VIOLENCE

Teen Dating Violence (TDV) is a pattern of abusive behavior in a dating relationship where one partner uses power in an attempt to control and coerce the other. TDV can occur in opposite sex or same-sex relationships regardless of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, education or socio-economic status.

TDV can take many forms including:

  • Physical, such as hitting, slapping, punching and shoving.
  • Verbal, emotional and/or psychological such as public or private name calling or put-downs, exhibiting extreme jealousy or preventing their partner from seeing family or friends.
  • Sexual, including coercing your partner to have sex when she/he is not ready, demanding sexual photos or using date rape drugs.
  • Technological, such as tracking someone using GPS on a mobile device, monitoring someone’s text messages or emails without their knowledge or permission, or sending threatening or harassing messages via social media.

 


FACTS ON TEEN DATING VIOLENCE

Teen dating violence is not an argument every once in a while, or a bad mood after a bad day. Dating violence is a pattern of violent behavior that someone uses against their partner to gain control.

  • About 72% of students in 8th and 9th grade report “dating” by the time they are in high school, 54% of students report dating violence among their peers.
  • About one in 11 teens reports being a victim of physical dating violence each year.
  • About one in four teens report verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual violence each year.
  • About one in five teens reports being a victim of emotional abuse.
  • About one in five high school girls has been physically or sexually abused by a dating partner.
  • About 70% of girls and 52% of boys who are victims of dating violence report an injury from a violent relationship.
  • Approximately 8% of boys and 9% of girls have been to an emergency room for an injury received from a dating partner.
  • Adolescents who experience dating violence not only are at increased risk for injury, but are also more likely to report binge drinking, suicide attempts, physical fighting, and sexual activity.
  • Rates of drug, alcohol, and tobacco use are more than twice as high in girls who report physical dating violence or sexual abuse than in girls who report no violence.

 


81% of parents believe teen dating
violence is not an issue or admit
they don’t know if it is an issue.

 


WARNING SIGN

It is important to understand the warning signs for dating violence so you can help teens develop healthy relationship attitudes and behaviors/

These “red flags” should alert you to the possibility that a teen may be a victim or is at risk of becoming victim of dating violence:

  • Suspicious bruises, scratches, or other injuries
  • Failing grades
  • Loss of interest in activities or hobbies that were once enjoyable
  • Alcohol or drug use
  • Extreme mood swings
  • Excuses their dating partner’s behavior
  • Fearfulness around their dating partner or when his or her name is mentioned
  • Avoidance of friends and social events
  • Does not go out without their partner

 


Take teens seriously when they talk
about their dating relationships and
ask for clarification if needed.

 


What can you do to help end Teen Dating Violence?

Have a conversation with the young people in your life; ask them to download the td411 app. 

It’s critical that teens have access to information about healthy dating behaviors and warning signs that their relationship might be abusive. CCADV’s mobile app, td411, does just that. td411 provides essential information to teens in a manner that makes sense for them – through their phone or mobile device. The app answers questions that they may be too afraid to ask and includes interactive tools to help them learn about their relationship and to connect with a counselor if they need someone to talk to. Encourage teens to download td411 so they have it readily accessible in case they or one of their friends needs help.

td411 lets you…

  • Learn healthy behaviors for dating relationships and the signs of abusive behaviors
  • Take the Dating Quiz to see where your relationship falls
  • Check out important safety tips and ways that you can stay safe
  • Use the search function to find the nearest counselor

 


Wear orange on Friday’s during February. Post your images on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter to show your support and raise awareness. #TDVAM #PCC_CT

Send your photos to emysliwiec@prudencecrandall.org so we can share them on our Facebook page!

 

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