Dress Down & Go Purple to support Domestic Violence Awareness Month

You can help end the violence!

Join our “Dress Down and Go Purple” campaign and help raise awareness at your school, work, or place of worship. We’ll provide you with brochures, posters, warning signs cards, and handouts.

You pick the day and encourage everyone to wear purple!

Let’s get talking and take a stand – together, let’s end the violence!

For information contact 860-259-3820 or smayou@prudencecrandall.org

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CE Electrical Charity Golf Tournament to benefit Prudence Crandall Center

 

2nd Annual

CE Electrical Charity Golf Tournament to Benefit
Prudence Crandall Center

 

October 11, 2018 • Lyman Orchard Golf Course

Join us for a day of bogeys, mulligans, & maybe a hole-in-one!

Check-in  –  10:30 am

Shotgun – 12:00 pm

Dinner  – 5:00 – 7:00 pm

 

Player Levels:

General Level – $10,000

Major Level –  $5,000

Colonel Level – $3,000

Captain Level – $1,500

Private Level – $175.00 per golfer

 

Sponsorship Opportunities:

Lunch Sponsor – $2,500

On Course Beverage Sponsor – $1,500

Player Cart Sponsor – $1,500

Bar Sponsor – $1,000

Practice Green Sponsor – $500

Driving Range Sponsor – $500

Flag Sponsor – $500

Tee Sign Sponsor – $250

Dinner Ticket Only – $100

 

If you would like to sponsor, donate a raffle prize or need more information,

please contact Paul Morneau at 860-304-5670 or email pmorneau@ce-electrical.com

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Help be the change CT needs

Connecticut has a serious problem with Dual Arrests, Bill SB466 is being considered to address this issue and we need your support!

411 on Dual Arrests:
A dual arrest occurs when both the victim and their abuser are arrested at the scene of a domestic violence incident. Connecticut’s intimate partner dual arrest rate is 20%, which is more than twice the national average of 7% (these are incidents specifically involving spouses, exes, dating partners, and individuals who have a child in common). This has been a 30 year, statewide challenge for Connecticut. This trend cuts across diverse socio-economic communities through rural, suburban, and urban settings.

Dual arrests have both short- and long-term consequences for victims, families, and the criminal justice system:

  • Decreases victim safety – When a victim is dually arrested, it has a chilling effect on that victim’s willingness to call the police for help in the future. This makes the victim much less safe moving forward.
  • Financial consequences – The victim is now thrust into the criminal justice system as a defendant and may need to hire an attorney, miss work to attend court dates, or hire childcare to attend court dates.
  • Additional trauma for children – When children see the parent they identify as the “true victim” arrested, they often develop a similar distrust of police and the criminal justice system.
  • Hinders prosecution – Dually arrested victims have little incentive to cooperate with the prosecutor because they themselves are facing prosecution. A dual arrest also raises “reasonable doubt” for defense attorneys who can point to the inability of law enforcement to determine what truly happened.
  • Overburdens courts – According to the CT Judicial Branch, family violence cases make up 1/3 of the criminal docket. Thousands of these cases include dual arrests, potentially needlessly adding to an already congested court system, impacting its administration and costing more money.

 
Here is what you can do to help!
Email Your Legislators
It is important to email your legislators and urge their support of this bill. It is best not to send bulk emails to legislators but to email them individually.
Co-Sponsor – Be sure to ask your legislators to co-sponsor the bill! Having a broad list of co-sponsors helps to demonstrate support for the bill and makes it easier to get the bill called for a vote on the floor.
Submit a Letter to the Editor
You can submit a letter to the editor to your local paper.
Use Social Media
Here are some sample social media posts that you can use to urge support. Be sure to check and see if your legislators have social media accounts and tag them in the post! Also, please be sure to tag CCADV so that we can share your posts with our followers, which includes several legislators. CCADV social media profiles: Twitter – @CTCADV, Facebook: @CTCoalitionAgainstDomesticViolence. You can also tag Prudence Crandall Center: Twitter: @PCC_CT, Facebook: @prudencecrandallcenter.

Did you know? In CT, about 20% of intimate partner violence incidents result in a dual arrest. That’s more than twice the national average of 7%. It’s time for a change! CT should adopt a dominant aggressor law. #PassSB466 #Change #DualArrestCT @Rep/Sen____ @CTCADV @PCC_CT

Victims who are arrested in a dual arrest are less likely to call the police for help in the future greatly diminishing their safety. It’s time for a change! CT should adopt a dominant aggressor law. #PassSB466 #Change #DualArrestCT @Rep/Sen____ @CTCADV @PCC_CT

Children who witness both parents being arrested suffer additional trauma and may develop a distrust of the criminal justice system. It’s time for a change! CT should adopt a dominant aggressor law. #PassSB466 #Change #DualArrestCT @Rep/Sen____ @CTCADV @PCC_CT

Here is a link to Find Your Legislators. Use this to find legislators based on your mailing address.

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Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

Irene Mackey, Development Intern

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month! While we are eager to share the importance of this month, the prospect of teen dating violence is one that is all too real for many young people today. Unfortunately, if you are old enough to date, you are old enough to potentially suffer from domestic violence.
 
Dating at a young age can be a wonderfully awkward experience. Between the ages of 14-18 dating finally starts to feel tangible. Hopes are high that you will meet someone nice, smart, who you have a lot in common with. Dating is something that’s very important to many high school and college students, and we all dream of one day marrying our high school sweethearts. Realistically speaking, it doesn’t always end up this way. But looking back, most have fond memories of their younger days and relationships.
 
However, this isn’t true for everyone. In fact, according to The Bureau of Justice and Statistics, and Intimate Partner Violence in the United States (2004) “Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence, almost triple the national average”. These numbers are the very harsh reality. Violent behavioral issues often start as young as age 12, long before our brains have fully developed, but just a few years before we usually start dating. The University of California San Francisco reported that among students between the ages of 15-20 who reported at least one violent act during their dating relationship, 24% experienced extremely violent occurrences such as rape or the use of weapons against them.
 
Young men and women aren’t always equipped with the right resources and information to help themselves if they are in a violent relationship. It can be difficult to fully grasp that you might be in trouble, how to get out of the relationship, or who to talk to if you need advice. That’s where we come in, at the Prudence Crandall Center we offer resources that will help you to understand that you are not alone, that there are other alternatives, and that you are not a victim, you are a survivor. We have a 24-hour helpline that is there to help people just like you. If you are in need of speaking with someone, we have certified Domestic Violence Counselor available, as well as access to our confidential, emergency shelter. We are here to make you feel heard, and to make you feel safe again.

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TEEN DATING VIOLENCE – IT’S NOT ALWAYS VIOLENT

SO WHAT IS IT?

If the person you’re dating shows a pattern of controlling or abusive behavior toward you, that’s dating violence. Teen dating violence can include any type of abuse: physical, sexual, verbal, or emotional. It doesn’t always include physical violence. Dating abuse can happen to anyone in any relationship – starting as early as age 11!

BUT I WOULD KNOW IF IT WAS HAPPENING TO ME…

The warning signs of teen dating violence are easily missed. Many people don’t know what to look for, so they overlook red flags within their own relationship. Most signs of dating violence are subtle changes in feelings and behaviors over the length of the relationship.

Do you:
– Feel afraid of your boyfriend/girlfriend?
– Feel pressured to be more committed or sexually active?
– Feel constantly put down by your significant other?
– Feel less close to your old friends or family?
– Ask permission from your partner to go somewhere?
– Dress or style yourself differently because they tell you to?
– Constantly need to check in with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
If any of these describe you, you might be in a controlling relationship.

OK, SO WHAT IF IT IS HAPPENING TO ME? WHAT DO I DO?

Talk about what’s going on with anyone who will listen without judging. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to a parent or teacher, try the free mobile app! Download the td411 app from the Apple AppStore or Google Play to text for help when it works for you.

You can always call our help line too! Our counselors are here to listen, answer your questions, and help you decide what’s best for your unique situation – even if you’re not sure whether you or a friend are in a controlling relationship.

Our help line number is: 1-888-774-2900

THE BOTTOM LINE…

If you don’t feel free to be yourself around your bae, that’s a sign of an unhealthy relationship. Dating violence is really about control – someone who truly loves you won’t want to control you.

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Why Women Stay: It’s Complicated

In light of the Ray Rice case and the Why I Stayed hashtag that is sparking a nationwide conversation about the complications of domestic abuse and the actions of the person being abused, we recommend reading the attached NYTimes story and viewing the attached TED talk.

If you want to talk about this issue, please call our Helpline at 888-774-2900. We have trained counselors to talk to and your conversation will remain confidential. The number is toll-free.

Seeing Abuse, and a Pattern Too Familiar

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